Yes or No to tit for tat?

Revenge is a dangerous word. It stimulates anger and hatred in most people. Gone were the days that people only link revenge with killing his father's killer or punching up the rapist. I would like to talk about the petty issues today, something so trivial that you wonder the other party has done it delibrately as a revenge.

It is not uncommon that there can be misunderstanding among friends. Even more, when you are staying under one roof or seeing each other everyday e.g. classmates. Sometimes small misunderstanding could lead to big arguments and nobody knows the real cause unless both parties calm down and explain to each other. It is such a shame that even long-trusting friends turn enemies due to a small matter. Recently, I have a friend who told me about her flatmate. They seem to be ok with each other but not the closest of friends. One day, they had a small disagreement on the utility bills and of course both parties were a little upset. Then, my friend decided to take a bath and halfway during the process, she noticed that there was no hot water from the tap and she was bathing cold chilly water and it was winter! So she was certain that the other friend had turned off the hot water button. Didn't ask her flatmate why, she just did the same to her flatmate when the opportunity came. The revenge to each other just continued for about three months. Until one day, my friend had to top up the electricity for the flat and they had always been postponing payment until the credits run flat, i.e until there was really no more electricity! Then she remembered that it was the same scenario on the first day that she bathed in cold water. Although her flatmate was in the flat at that time, another flatmate had gone to top up the electricity.....OOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPSSSSSS!

I was literally scolding my friend for being so impulsive. For the whole three months, she was being troubled about bathing in cold water and definitely her flatmate had the same problem. It wasn't only that, my friend had to go to turn off the hot water button and stealthily went back to her room. Revenge is all about hard work! Besides, 'an eye for an eye' was going to continue if not for my friend clearing up with her flatmate after that. It all started from a small misunderstanding, how worthless!

Now to think it through, if something like what happened to my friend happens to you; let's say it was deliberate. Would you have done the same thing , i.e. vow for a revenge? Is it worthwhile to commit to something that is wasting your time and hurting the other party in the process? Let's talk about ethics here. Is it ethical? and is it against your religion or your beliefs to enjoy doing bad things to others. Are you sadistic? We are talking about misdemeanours here, not big crimes that will put you in jail. Are they justifiable?

I have always believe that revenge is not the best method. Doing small petty things like trying to make the other party irritated by turning off hot water button or throw away other ppl's things (that's what i've heard too!) is somehow unethical. If you don't like a person, show it and tell him/her why you think so. Being estranged to each other in a flat or in uni may be a better solution than to show how close you guys are but later commit some stealthy crimes, thinking that the other party hasn't noticed. Sometimes, it is only painful when you don't know whether the other party has noticed and things happen to you...you'll be troubled pondering whether it was done by them.

Another question to all of you, will you forgive somebody who had done petty things(like something discussed above) to you? Let's see what you'll do to settle this?

What will you do?
	Do nothing
	Confront the other party
	Act like nothing happen, then do the same thing to him/her
	Confront the other party, and then do the same thing to him/her
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So, yes or no for tit for tat?

Yes or No to tit for tat?
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